Relationships of children with ADHD usually don’t fare well. ADHD is a very disruptive behavior that can cause all kinds of problems in a relationship. A child with ADHD usually struggles with controlling their impulsivity and can disrupt relationships because of it. Relationships that revolve around work or school or that are emotionally based are usually the ones that suffer as a result.
The most common ADHD relationship difficulty is how ADHD affects relationships. Typically what happens is that one partner will become more self-centered than the other and the relationship will not function properly. The ADHD partner might forget important things, be over-reactive to certain situations, have buried anger, become overly emotional, hide their feelings, break off communications, and begin to form and end relationships very quickly. All of these behaviors make it very difficult for a relationship to move forward.
One way to help improve relationships with children who have ADHD is to try and figure out how ADHD is affecting their brain. Basically an ADHD brain is like any normal person’s brain in that it has good things and bad things. It gets dopamine and norepinephrine, which are the neurotransmitters, flowing the right way. If there are some dysfunctions in the areas of the brain that control attention, impulse control, memory, and other areas then the brain will be overstimulated. This over stimulation leads to a hyperactive/impulsive behavior, which can lead to all kinds of problems in relationships.
In order to help with how ADHD affects relationships, couples need to make sure that ADHD and its symptoms are treated so that they can do what they need to in order to live happy and healthy lives. For some people this means a trip to a psychologist (since it is such a common problem), while others have to deal with talking to their partners about the problem. If one partner is taking meds and the other does not then the problem can become resentment and hurt feelings. Both partners should be made to feel comfortable about the idea of going to therapy or seeing a psychiatrist, since if things are not dealt with properly, then there will be no improvement in the relationship.
How ADHD affects relationships can also include how ADHD impairs trust between partners. Children with ADHD are often difficult to trust because of their inattentiveness and hyperactivity. As a parent you have to let your ADHD partner know that he or she is not alone in this; you need to let them know that there are other people who can understand what they are going through and that they are not alone in that. The last thing loved one need is to feel completely betrayed because someone else does not believe him.
How ADHD affects relationships can also include how ADHD interferes with communication. Children with ADHD are known for not being able to complete tasks. Because of this they often have problems with expressing themselves and may resort to yelling to get your attention. It is important to talk to your ADHD partner about how they might be expressing themselves without realizing that they are doing so verbally. You both might find that your communicating skills have improved as a result of talking to each other more often.